Is Divorce Mediation Right For You?

Does your divorce case meet the criteria for divorce mediation?

While there are many benefits to divorce mediation, this may not be the right method for every divorcing couple. To help you decide whether divorce mediation can help you and your spouse reach an acceptable divorce agreement we have provided the following checklist.

If after you've read these requirements you're still unsure if divorce mediation is the right step for you and your spouse we invite you for  a free, no obligation consultation to discuss your specific situation.

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1st Requirement - You and Your Spouse Both Wish to get Divorced

The end result of divorce mediation will be your divorce agreement. If you are unsure of whether or not you wish to get divorced, it is probably best that you contact a marriage counselor that will be able to assist you in determining whether or not you should end your marriage. 

2nd Requirement - Both You and Your Spouse Agree to Participate

The primary requirement for mediation is that you and your spouse are both willing to be active participants. It is essential for the mediation process that both you and your spouse participate of your own free will. The ultimate goal is to form a divorce agreement that addresses all relevant issues of your separation. During the process you will have to communicate with each other and overcome different emotional barriers. If you or your spouse refuses to participate willingly in the process there is little chance you will be able to reach an acceptable divorce agreement and the mediation process will fail. 

3rd Requirement - Both Spouses Will Be Present

It is necessary for both you and your spouse to be present throughout the entire divorce mediation process. Mediation sessions will not be conducted unless both spouses are present to ensure our complete neutrality. 

If your spouse does not live nearby we may be able to schedule conference calls, though it is strongly recommended that the first few meetings are held in person. 

4th Requirement - Complete Transparency

It will be impossible to make informed decisions without first having all of the necessary information. We will not have the power of the court to compel you or your spouse to produce pertinent information such as bank statements, credit card statements, stock options, small business records, etc. Individuals that choose mediation typically feel confident that they know what assets their spouses possess. They do not feel the need to participate in formal disclosure in court.

Each spouse must be completely willing to provide all requested information and present it during our mediation sessions. Our Massachusetts divorce mediation service would not be a good fit for anyone that wishes to reach an agreement by revealing as little as possible. 

5th Requirement - Your Goal is to Move Forward, Not Get Even

Couples that seek revenge will burn through everything they have on attorney fees just to cause their spouse frustration and pain. If this is your main motivation then divorce mediation is probably not the right option for you.

It doesn't mean you can't be angry. Emotions will certainly play a part in most divorce mediation processes, which is only natural. In fact, throughout the divorce mediation process you will have the chance to express your feelings. However, mediation requires both you and your spouse to focus on the long-term picture and on your willingness to move forward, cut your losses, and start fresh.  At the end of the day, you and your spouse must understand that it is in your best interest to reach an acceptable divorce agreement instead of trying to hurt each other and indulge in an ugly divorce battle.

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